As a parent we are supposed to be non-biased and love all of our kids equally right? You know treat them the same, give them the same, all that jazz. Well here’s the thing, we are all human and try as we might we can’t treat every kid the same and for the most part I think that is a good thing. What is right for one child is not right for the other, I think each child needs to be assessed and treated like the individual they are. This is how I try to raise my kids, we have a saying in our house“Fair doesn’t mean equal”
That being said there is one pitfall that I am constantly battling and that is underestimating my child. I have one daughter in particular who I always underestimate. Maybe it’s the fact that her birthday is one of those cutoff ones that could go either way and I always tend to think she is not ready for things. Maybe it’s because she is physically tiny or maybe it is my residual guilt from my health issues when she was a baby. OR maybe it’s my own inability to let her go and grow and maybe it’s all of these combined, but she always is ready even when I am not.
When it came time to sign her up for dance I was sure she was not ready for the class that did an on stage recital, I thought she still needed the play movement class. At the recital she flawlessly did both her dances and was even the leader in one…
When it came time to decide on whether or not to send her to Kindergarten I was sure she was not ready even though she had proven me wrong repeatedly over the last year. Thank goodness my husband sees her true ability even before I do. When I agreed she should go I was stressed for weeks, I have never ever stressed about a kid going to Kindergarten before! And guess what… she is doing great.
Whatever the reason I just keep underestimating her and she just keeps proving me wrong. Thank goodness for that! While I never tell her she isn’t ready I secretly fear it in my heart. I hope that as a mom I can get past this and help her succeed in life, not hold her back.
So to my daughter who I constantly underestimate, I am sorry, so very, very sorry if I have held you back. I am sorry if you felt like I did not believe in you and I am so glad God gave you the spunk and determination to prove me wrong over and over again, because I really do believe in you and I know you can conquer the world if you set your mind on it!